“I learned to talk about it, so I healed.”
“I learned to talk about it, so I healed.”
It always amazes me when people are willing to genuinely to share their story. Especially when they don’t leave out the most difficult and painful parts.
I sat with a new friend a few weeks ago listening to her share the trials and celebrations she had experienced in her life.
At one point in the story she shared that her mother had died when she was only a baby.
When I asked her more about it, she told me that her mother had wrestled through a miscarriage and then postpartum depression after giving birth to her.
She wasn’t with the father of either baby at this point, but found herself pregnant again.
In the midst of her grief, she had an abortion, even though any professional would tell her that this shouldn’t have been attempted since she had delivered via c-section just months before.
Her mom had died having an abortion when she was just an infant.
She didn’t find out this information until she was 18 years old since it wasn’t something her family could find the strength to talk about at all.
My friend shared how shocking it was to find out about this painful past. She described the different emotions she went through as she processed this new information.
Now it’s been 10 years since she’s known and I told her I was sorry that she went through so much and much more since losing her mother.
“It’s ok. I learned to talk about it… so I healed”.
We sat in silence for a few minutes and her words sunk in to my soul.
That’s it.
Being vulnerable, sharing, talking, opening up… it doesn’t fix our problems…
But it almost always helps us begin to heal.
God gave us human relationships and a relationship with him as a main form of the healing he wants for our lives.
There are so many things that go on in our minds and hearts. They bounce around inside leaving us bruised form the inside out.
We have to let those things out. It doesn’t mean they don’t still hurt.
But they are weakened and thus don’t have as much power over us.
My friend learned to talk about the pain.
I wonder if anything would have been different if her mother had learned that in her grief as well?
I am so thankful to the friends, counselors, mentors, pastors & spiritual directors who have helped me heal just by listening.
If something is causing internal damage inside your mind and heart – let it out.
Learn to talk about it – because then, like my friend, you’ll begin to heal.
“I learned to talk about it, so I healed.”
It always amazes me when people are willing to genuinely to share their story. Especially when they don’t leave out the most difficult and painful parts.
I sat with a new friend a few weeks ago listening to her share the trials and celebrations she had experienced in her life.
At one point in the story she shared that her mother had died when she was only a baby.
When I asked her more about it, she told me that her mother had wrestled through a miscarriage and then postpartum depression after giving birth to her.
She wasn’t with the father of either baby at this point, but found herself pregnant again.
In the midst of her grief, she had an abortion, even though any professional would tell her that this shouldn’t have been attempted since she had delivered via c-section just months before.
Her mom had died having an abortion when she was just an infant.
She didn’t find out this information until she was 18 years old since it wasn’t something her family could find the strength to talk about at all.
My friend shared how shocking it was to find out about this painful past. She described the different emotions she went through as she processed this new information.
Now it’s been 10 years since she’s known and I told her I was sorry that she went through so much and much more since losing her mother.
“It’s ok. I learned to talk about it… so I healed”.
We sat in silence for a few minutes and her words sunk in to my soul.
That’s it.
Being vulnerable, sharing, talking, opening up… it doesn’t fix our problems…
But it almost always helps us begin to heal.
God gave us human relationships and a relationship with him as a main form of the healing he wants for our lives.
There are so many things that go on in our minds and hearts. They bounce around inside leaving us bruised form the inside out.
We have to let those things out. It doesn’t mean they don’t still hurt.
But they are weakened and thus don’t have as much power over us.
My friend learned to talk about the pain.
I wonder if anything would have been different if her mother had learned that in her grief as well?
I am so thankful to the friends, counselors, mentors, pastors & spiritual directors who have helped me heal just by listening.
If something is causing internal damage inside your mind and heart – let it out.
Steph, this has proven true in my life. I hope, in the future, that I will be able to and have opprtunity to share current trials in a save and healing environment.
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